Why are relationships complicated?

Couple having an argument.

In this article, I will mention a few opinions why I think many find relationships complicated and hard to keep.

Remember that these are my own opinions and doesn’t have to correspond to your own.

You are free to think and feel as you please.

I’ve been in three relationships myself in my entire life. First one was when I was fifteen and other two was in the last five years, I’m 32 years of age now.

First one lasted a year, second four years and the third a year again. In other words, the last one broke just a few months ago.

My thoughts have been circulating for a while now about why I can’t keep a steady relationship and I have a few ideas of why.

First one is kind of basic; we were not meant to be.

This is actually much more true than most would admit I think, since most don’t want to accept that something like that can be the case.

I mean, we were in love at some point and had great plans for the future, I think we rather stick to that thought rather than a waste of time.

The other reasons are communication and sacrifice.

Sometimes you need to put the one you love before your own interests, which many forget or don’t want anymore when the relationship is taken for granted.

Communication by speech and body-language is to express your feelings both good and bad, and also to solve issues before they become too big.

Most couples keep their feelings on the inside and sooner or later they explode for the most ridiculous reasons.

In my relationships, we lacked communication.
We thought that some issues didn’t matter until it ate our lust and energy so slowly that we didn’t realize it before it was too late.

This is partly my fault and their fault, if one can’t dance the other one has to lead in the beginning.

You always need two to Tango.

However, the reason why I think 90% of all relationships end is because of the first reason – not meant for each other.

We give all our love, time and energy for something and sometimes it just doesn’t work.

Better to accept it and embrace the feelings instead of hiding from it.

All of my relationships were found through friends.

Each of these girls was the best girl I had at the moment, that doesn’t mean that we were necessarily right for each other.

We based our decision on the information we had at the moment, being lonely and need of intimacy was a huge factor as well.

It’s nice to just have someone, even if they may not be the one.

I believe in giving the relationship more time to grow and become strong before you make it more or less official.

Not knowing the person on the inside and on a deeper level may crash the relationship in the future.

We usually show our own “faults” a few months in, when the new love feeling has faded and everything goes back to normal.

Basically, let love grow slowly instead of forcing it because you miss it.

Two weeks ago, I tried blind dating for the first time.

It was awkward, scary, but very interesting.
You learned a lot in the few hours you were there, but it didn’t end up with a date in my case.

I started Google on blind dating since I was intrigued and found a free online dating site called Blinddate.com™.

I have just used the site for around 10 days, but it opened my eyes to something, namely everything I wrote above on what was good for love.

They decided to create an online dating site for American singles that focus entirely on the information, or inner qualities to be more specific.

Basically, you start to know the inner qualities and break the eyes before you even meet!

With thousands of different people and personalities, you don’t have to meet the one who seems great at the moment, you can actually give it time and let it grow to find the best one for you, and vice versa.

I love the idea and I know it may be too early to praise the site, but I genuinely love the idea of blind dating online in a more secure environment.

I’m sorry for rambling on and on, I hope that I made a little sense at least.

Try blinddate.com™ and let love start from within, but in a slow pace that both can enjoy to creating something deeper.

Then you won’t need to see relationships as complicated any more.

Good luck!

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